- Do use an experienced family law lawyer who has knowledge of the law to make sure that your interests are protected.
- Do be honest and up front. Tell your lawyer everything and fully make known all your assets and property. You are protected by solicitor / client privilege.
- Do be practical as possible. Finding the middle ground often results in a quicker resolution.
- Do document everything that you might think will be important later on.
- Do use a cost / benefit analysis when prioritizing the issue(s) at hand.
- Don't represent yourself. Even experienced lawyers that are getting divorced use a lawyer.
- Don't let your friends tell you what to do. Though they may have good intentions listen to your lawyer. They know the law and how to apply it to your unique matter.
- Don't pay your child or spousal support late.
- Don't pick up your children for access if have been drinking or have taken drugs.
- Do not ignore any communication from your lawyer. Respond in a timely fashion.
- Do get professional help if you need it to cope with your divorce.
- Do make the children feel that your new home is also their home.
- Do remember that the children have a social life. They have soccer, birthday parties and friends. It is important that their social life be as normal as possible.
- Do show respect towards your spouse in front of the children.
- Do make sure that the children know they are not the reason for the divorce.
- Don't discuss the details of the divorce with your children.
- Don't put your children in the middle of your divorce. The divorce is between you and your spouse.
- Don't put your spouse down in front of the children.
- Don't use the children as messengers.
- Don't stop the children from seeing the other parent because he or she owes you money.